Thoughts on fear, anxiety, worry, and how to conquer them daily!
Checking in, friends. How are YOU doing?! Have you checked in with yourself lately and really evaluated where you’re at mentally and physically? It’s SO important to check in from time to time and just take note of how you’re truly feeling inside and out. I hope you take the time to do that sometime soon.
Anyways, today I am tackling a subject that we all deal with at some point in our lives….FEAR.
Whether it’s heights, spiders, social situations, or flying in a plane….we all have fears. But what exactly is fear. Is it a sense that our life is being threatened, an autonomic response to perceived danger, or that there is just something that we can’t quite pin point that feels uncomfortable? I once read a book called My Age of Anxiety. It was absolutely incredible and when I finished, I left it learning a ton about myself and my own anxiety.
One thing that stuck out to me is how the author talks about fear as a driving force behind anxiety. It’s had me thinking a lot about fears role in my own life and how it can be such a hindrance to growth, prosperity, success, and change within our lives.
To me, fear is manifested from our desire to be in control at all times. Being out of control, fearing the unknown, and feeling a threat to our self-esteem, are all common roots of the fear we feel everyday. But at some point we have to stop dwelling on things that we simply cannot control. It’s easier said than done, of course, but if we keep this in mind we can slowly start incorporating it into our everyday lives.
Point blank, fear is crippling. It’s the antithesis of truly living and keeps us from reaching our full potential by stifling our ability to break boundaries and move outside of our comfort zone. Stop living in the ‘what if’ and start living in the ‘here and now’.
In fact think of fear as a blinking arrow pointing you towards the things you should be working to overcome, conquer, and reframe your thinking around. It’s like compass pointing you towards the areas in your life that have room for growth. For example if you fear flying, that means you should expose yourself as much as possible to that trigger in hopes of overcoming it. You’ll not only feel a sense of accomplishment, but also you’ll be motivated to tackle other, more detrimental fears in your life. After all, fear is nothing more than an obstacle that stands in the way of progress.
Fear is focusing on what will happen next instead of embracing what happening NOW. While it’s good to be proactive and anticipate possible scenarios, we should work on being more present and mindful to avoid the overwhelming, innumerable possibilities of the next moment.
I know I’ve talked a lot about reducing fear’s power in your life but I don’t want that to generate a new fear for you. Fearing fear itself and being critical of yourself for feeling fear is just as bad! So be patient and compassionate with yourself. Know that a certain level of fear is healthy and HUMAN! It can keep us safe and trigger internal responses for self-preservation. But when fears become overwhelming and transition into all-encompassing anxiety where your mind is obsessed and overrun with worry, that’s when fear is dangerous.
So just be mindful and take inventory of the fears in your life. Are you actively working to challenge them on a daily basis? Are they rational? Are they keeping you from living life to the fullest? Ask yourself these questions. Don’t let them consume you and keep you from pursuing your life goals and aspirations.
Just some thoughts I felt needed to be shared! I think we can all use some reminders to challenge our comfort zones and our thoughts sometimes.
What’s one of your everyday fears?
Do you feel fear has held you back in someway in your life?
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